A copy is on its way to your inbox.
The reply drafted three times. Each draft more polite. Each one further from what you meant. You sent the third one.
Why your system built it
Your system checks how the true thing will land before you've finished thinking it. By the time it's safe enough to say, it isn't yours any more.
What it costs
Conversations where you were in the room and not really there. A voice that sounds reasonable and says very little.
One thing for this week
Once a day, send the first draft. Keep it small. A text, a no, a preference about dinner.
Where to from here
The first draft gets easier to send when you've practised saying it out loud somewhere it's welcome. Kula is six sessions with seven other women who are done performing certainty they don't feel.
Or bring the decision you keep circling to one 90-minute Disha session, and we'll find what your system already knows about it.
If one of these is yours, you'll know.
Nic