Don't Drink the Kool-Aid: Toxic Leadership in the Spiritual\/Intuitive Space
There’s a shadow side to every path of light, and the spiritual and intuitive industries are no exception.
We’re taught to trust our intuition, to follow what feels aligned, to lean into vulnerability and surrender. But what happens when that trust is exploited? When intuition is twisted into manipulation? When surrender is used to silence?
I’ve seen too many brilliant, sensitive, powerful women give their authority away to someone who seemed more connected, more awakened, and more worthy. I’ve been there, too—seduced by certainty, charisma, or the illusion of fast-track transformation.
This blog isn’t a witch hunt. It’s a wake-up call.
It’s a reminder that:
Discernment is spiritual.
Boundaries are sacred.
Your sovereignty is not negotiable.
The Kool-Aid Looks Like…
"Only I have the codes."
"Your resistance is your trauma speaking—don’t question me."
"This is the only path to your highest self."
"If you leave this container, you’ll undo all your progress."
Sound familiar?
This isn’t divine leadership. It’s dogma wrapped in glitter and incense.
Behind the Curtain
Let’s name it:
Charismatic hierarchy: one person at the top, everyone else seeking approval.
Gaslighting under the guise of 'mirror work.'
Spiritual bypassing: dismissing real harm as ‘just part of your soul’s journey.’
Shaming dissent or questions.
Financial coercion disguised as abundance work.
And when someone finally speaks up? They’re often painted as “unhealed,” “jealous,” or “in their ego.”
No. Sometimes, they’re just calling bullshit.
If a coach, teacher, or “soul guide” claims exclusive access to truth and asks you to bypass your own inner knowing, that’s not empowerment—it’s spiritual control
Why We Fall for It
Because we’re human. Because we want clarity, healing, and guidance. Because we’ve been taught to defer to those who seem more connected or “more spiritual” than us.
Trauma can often weaken our boundaries, especially when we encounter someone who communicates in a way that resonates deeply with us—through heart, intuition, divine timing, and sacred contracts. It sounds like the truth. They have the conviction of telling the truth. It feels like safety.
But when your gut quietly whispers “something’s off”—that’s your real guidance system speaking.
What Real Leadership Looks Like
Invites questions and conversation.
Holds space and doesn’t hoard power.
Encourages autonomy, not dependence.
Owns their humanity.
Walks their talk.
Real leadership empowers you to return to yourself—not to become a replica of someone else’s brand of spiritual success.
An Invitation Back to Sovereignty
If you’ve been burned by a spiritual space or mentor, I’m sorry. It’s not your fault—but it is your responsibility to heal, rebuild trust in yourself, and remember:
You are the vessel.
You are the oracle.
You are the magic.
Don’t give your power to anyone who asks you to leave yourself behind to follow them.
This isn’t a takedown of spirituality. It’s a return to truth. Let’s build intuitive communities that are trauma-informed, ethical, and genuinely empowering. Let’s honour our sacred gifts without bypassing our critical thinking. Let’s stop worshipping brands and start trusting ourselves.
And let’s try never again to drink the Kool-Aid.
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